Posted by antigua3 on November 7, 2007, at 7:14:50
In reply to Pragmatism, posted by Dinah on November 6, 2007, at 13:03:52
sorry, this may come from out in left field.
I'm a pragmatist too because it allows me to accept what is being given, and not to ask for more. If I want more, I manipulate. I do this more with my pdoc than my T because I don't trust him yet. At the base, I believe he will hurt me, and I use my pragmatism and manipulation as a defense. I'm already plotting how I'm going to try to manipulate him when I see him next.
So, for me, and my definitions may be very different, my pragmatism is a lowering of standards of sorts, and along with manipulation is a huge defense mechanism for me. That said, I don't think many people who know me (except pdoc maybe) would say that I'm a manipulator. I want a certain outcome at times and I feel good when I get it, no matter how I do it. (Please don't think I'm an evil person; I don't manipulate for evil means, but I do work strategically to get what I want in the kindest way. Not so kind with pdoc, and I know that's all based on trust. I really don't trust him yet and maybe never will.
Just a diferent take--all mine.
antigua
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