Posted by twinleaf on October 26, 2007, at 9:12:10
In reply to Re: Pdoc/Real Me asked why I wouldn't shake hands abov » seldomseen, posted by antigua3 on October 26, 2007, at 7:24:20
I think your goal of working out issues with your father is very important; it sounds like you have made a lot of progress in many other ways- with this one standing out as still unresolved.
But is this pdoc TRAINED to help you with this? You and he are going to be facing very intense transference-counter-transference feelings, including love, hate, rage and dependency..It sounds like you are both already starting to. In order to help you, he has to understand how intense they will be, and have enough experience and training to respond with caring and understanding, but not allow himself to respond with withdrawal, anger, etc. If he does that, he will be compounding the original trauma. It looks like he is already out of his depth- fiddling with his computer, for example. DBT isn't enough traing for what you need..Aren't there some psychoanalytically-trained male therapists in your area?
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