Posted by Dinah on October 18, 2007, at 9:09:18
In reply to Snuggler or non-toucher?, posted by Daisym on October 17, 2007, at 23:11:55
I think there are personal differences, and that's perfectly ok. The important thing is that couples are aware of their partners' preferences. The problem isn't that he's a nonsnuggler. It's that they have a difference in snuggling needs.
I think in that type of situation needs to be addressed with the same eye to compromise that any marital conflict brings.
Is there anything inherently wrong with it? I don't think so. As long as it is what you really like and aren't being stopped by fear.
Moving touch feels quite uncomfortable to me, because it's too stimulating. But warm close non moving touch from someone I feel comfortable with is pleasant. I don't think it's because of any fears of anything going further. I'm the same way with my pets. And I've had some pets who are the same way with me. So I'm thinking it's a natural sort of difference.
I *hate* social touching of any sort. Handshakes, social hugs, social kisses. They all feel intrusive to varying degrees. If I don't feel comfortable with someone I'd rather they didn't touch me at all.
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