Posted by rskontos on October 6, 2007, at 11:00:30
In reply to Re: :-( :-( Dunno WHAT to do***SEX trigger***:- » Dinah, posted by muffled on October 6, 2007, at 10:51:28
Muffled, I don't think you will tainted her view. And maybe, Just my two cents, that someone who thinks it is wonderful can help you better than someone that thinks it is crap. You know the saying misery likes company. If she is willing to help you go slowly and you can try to be willing. I know because I feel the same way as you do. My husband and I have the same issues. I think as we work through the therapy part dissociation will fail us, because as we deal with our feelings it is the part that allowed us to keep them at bay, you can't have both. But you can probably find a middle grown. I don't think the kids need to be in the same bed or area though. randy DH needs to realize they need to be in their own place and you need romance and to be wooed and to feel safe and a part of it. And that starts before you both see the bed. Or the bedroom. So it is intimacy we crave but don't know how to accept. So it has to go slowly. I can't sometimes even stand to have someone put their arms around me muchless the rest so the rest must be slow and I have to know my H wants to take the time I need. Or forget about it.....Maybe your T can help you guys work on this, a middle ground for both of you with the kids safely in their room innocents as they need to stay for as long as possible. Hang in girl.......it will get better I think...
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