Posted by muffled on September 24, 2007, at 22:06:56
In reply to Babble interfere with therapy?, posted by LittleGirlLost on September 24, 2007, at 20:13:04
> It's bothering me that I am comparing her to some of what I am reading here. It's also been a few weeks, and we are still not back on track yet. The misunderstanding was pretty bad, and I'm just "not feelin' it now" and honestly, that worries me.
**LOL. Not to laugh, but there's that old saying 'the grass is always greener on the other side'...
I think its GOOD to see how other T's work. Cuz then we can always suggest such stuff to our T's. Not to say they'll go for it, but it can be a topic that will bring up other stuff.
I think my T does stuff thats great and wouldn't trade her for nothing, yet i KNOW she has her shortcommings. But I think ALL T's WILL have shortcommings cuz they HUMAN!
So to me, it goes back to 'fit'. What fits for the client. My T fits cuz she is calm, laughs, very patient, pretty open, strong, no scared of me, don't give up on me etc. I wish she knew more bout dissociation :-(, but right now, I need steadfastness, and she is that.
> You see, I come from a family where we did not (and still don't) talk about things. While I may not post much on Babble, I do read; and in doing so, I finally worked up the nerve to try to bring up something with my therapist that I thought was pretty big. Somehow there was a miscommunication, or misunderstanding, or something, so naturally I felt embarrassed (about my feelings) and completely shut down and considered that topic off limits -- but it shouldn't be! Now I can't get past this! I feel like I finally start to bring up something deep and I'm shunned. I'm embarrassed to talk about it further; nor do I want to. But how do I get past it? Me, the non-talker, feels that the only way is TO talk about it, but last week my therapist made a comment which led me to believe that she thinks it will take time "and I'll just get past it". Quite frankly that kinda concerns me as it seems backwards!**Sigh, thats LOUSY when stuff like this happens :-(
And the ONLY answer I have found is SIGH, to talk about it. I am a non talker too. So I usu bring in a babble post to show her. Its been very useful.
> I'm really worried. :(**Try not to worry too much :-( But I feel for you.
> But also, my point with the possible Babble interference is, I wonder if I'm making this worse because I'm kind of comparing how she handled it to how other therapists would have, and I feel disappointed?
**Well IMHO I find babble ADDS to my T. In a GOOD way. Sometimes its hard to be here. Sometimes its triggering. But on the whole it is helpful for me, and very informative.
So I expect all our human T's have dissapointed us at times.
So, mebbe take in your post? Or write out your thots for T to read?
This needs to be dealt with all right.
These are my thots.
Take care,
M
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