Posted by antigua3 on September 18, 2007, at 11:25:21
In reply to Re: How long into therapy can you see progress?, posted by seldomseen on September 18, 2007, at 8:43:49
Well, you may not like my answer at all!!! I have been with the same T for 17, yes 17, years. I saw improvement right away because I had someone to talk to who was willing to listen and, as others have said, pointed out how my reactions to current events were based on patterns developed as a child. When I first went to her I was in crisis mode over a devastating event, so it took a year maybe to get over that.
Over the years, we've done wonderful things together. She has helped me raise my kids in a healthy way, and when we've been "stuck" on the tough things, we would discuss my kids and the issues they brought up in me.
It took me many, many years to really trust her, to believe that she cared and had my best interests at heart. It seems funny that it took so long, but abandonment is at the root of most of my issues and I know now that she would never abandon me.
For me, it has been lots of peaks and valleys, very painful at times, even recently, but I have learned coping skills that I use every day now. She is with me always, inside, and while it may sound like we don't have things to discuss anymore, in many ways we are only getting to the center core of my self now. I still have issues with males, which is not as easy to deal with with her because she has played the role of the good mother to me. Now I have a male pdoc and she & I are working on how I can use this relationship to resolve paternal issues.
Obviously, I'm in psychodynamic therapy, but my pdoc does more CBT. I don't feel like I have far to go w/her anymore--I can see the end in sight so now I just see her every other week.
antigua
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