Posted by Dinah on August 31, 2007, at 11:09:29
In reply to Forced Termination and Hatred *Trigger SI*, posted by ForeverWounded on August 31, 2007, at 5:27:36
I have at times felt intense rage at my therapist around the area of abandonment. I think in your situation I definitely would be enraged. I can understand why you'd want to leave as well, although I know how important a church community can be.
I think Joni is probably right. Likely there was stuff going on with him personally that precipitated his choices, although that doesn't really excuse a lack of empathy or compassion.
You have until November to tell him exactly what you think about him, and how it has affected your ability to trust. I don't know how well he'll respond to it. Different therapists are very different in that. But at least you'll have said what you want to say.
I always said I'd never see another therapist, but when I temporarily lost mine, I did. She wasn't a keeper. And quite frankly, trust wasn't an issue. She was never important enough to me for me to even get to the issue of trust. And yet, she was helpful to me in ways I don't quite understand, even now.
Maybe if you think about seeing another therapist, not in a long term therapy sort of way, but just as a convenience, with no attachment, no trust, to help you get a handle on what you're feeling now, it might be as helpful to you as it was to me.
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