Posted by Happyflower 1 :-) on August 28, 2007, at 6:02:13
In reply to Re: saw my old T » Happyflower 1 :-), posted by RealMe on August 27, 2007, at 21:53:06
Wow, Real Me,
I am not sure what to say. I think T's can be defensive about us quiting, and give reasons for their behavior, to have us come back to work with them. But when we actually quit for good, when we are clearly not done with therapy, has to hurt a little for them and their ego I think, especially if they have seen us for a long time.
I think my T felt bad when he saw me, not because it was me, but because when I went to the goodbye session, I said what he did to get fired, so he had to think about that some, and realize things.
I remember when I would get upset before at him, and didn't quit, he seemed so relieved and said he was glad I didn't fire him as he would say.
I am glad I did have the last session. I think it helped that I had a new T on my side too. The fact he knew it wasn't recommened by my new T to have a last session with him because he might become defensive. My T had to think, wow, was it really THAT bad, that a T would not want my client to see himself. Plus the fact I had to do EMDR because of what happened, I think really made him think about what he did. I am sure it won't be the last EMDR session either about this because I keep getting angrier about it the last couple of days.
My T told me that he did hug clients at the end sometimes,and if I terminated regularly, I am sure he would have if I wanted. But once I got there, I didn't want him to touch me, so I just walked out the door and said Bye. He was kinda choked up.
Thanks RealMe, it helped to hear your story about this.
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