Posted by RealMe on August 24, 2007, at 23:58:33
In reply to Re: hate this transference stuff » RealMe, posted by JoniS on August 24, 2007, at 23:34:07
JoniS
I am really sorry; I think from things you have said that your therapist really does care about you or would not continue seeing you. When therapist's look like they are glazing over as my therapist from years ago would do and my therapist now, it is because they are getting into the feeling of what it is you are saying. It scares the hell out of me. It does not mean they are bored; quite the contrary. Have you ever said anything silly or stupid in therapy? I am forever sticking my foot in my mouth (I think), but he is glad (I think). Try it once with somethng not to risky. Of course it is even better if you don't plan it, though I do sometimes plan and say something silly. I don't get the same reaction. He seems to like it and think it is funny when he catches me off guard. HUM. I don't always think it is so funny, but with help from people here, I came to see I was again misinterpreting. Could that be true for you??
Yikes; I don't have children, but I am not sure I would like having the same therapist as my daughter. I would be afraid she was saying all sorts of negative stuff about me. Also, he gets to know you through someone elses eyes. That would scare the hell out of me, and my defenses would be up like a brick wall. Maybe that is something you could say to him if you feel that way, that is.
I doubt your therapist keeps the boundaries firmer with you. Perhaps he recognizes how serious you are about all this and thinks you want him to be serious too. I don't know. There could be all sorts of reasons rather than thinking you are weak or that you are not so interesting. Maybe he sees you as a challenge. That would be a compliment. Maybe he thinks that after he said he cares about you deeply that this comment scared you off. I remember when you said your therapist said that, and I WAS jealous. We are both silly gooses, I think. But it does hurt; I know that for sure. You are a good person.
(((JoniS)))
RealMe (Oz)
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