Posted by DAisym on August 24, 2007, at 17:09:20
In reply to still stuck in 'transference' with therapist, posted by widget on August 24, 2007, at 15:31:20
The love you describe sounds so deep and so painful. I once goggled "unrequited love" way back when and found descriptions that matched how I was feeling. It wasn't about my therapist though - interestingly enough. I have struggled with my feelings for him, but always I've been able to honestly say that I'd rather have him as my therapist than anything else. When I think of having to give up the therapy, the other fantasy recedes. That doesn't mean that there aren't still times that I feel tormented by jealousy or possessiveness. But mostly for me I want to know where he is (are you still there for me?) and if he is safe.
It sounds like you've had at least one discussion about your feelings. Do you continue the discussion? I've been trying to remember if you had entered into a relationship with your therapist or not. Someone in that thread long ago was/did. That can make it all twice as hard, having part of him but not all of him, like any affair with a married man, it definitely has its downside.
I'm sorry you are hurting. I'm glad you could post. Reaching out and talking about it might help.
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