Posted by DAisym on August 17, 2007, at 0:35:27
In reply to Re: Processing Stuff - Trigger » DAisym, posted by RealMe on August 16, 2007, at 22:24:15
I hope you are right and I'm glad that I can help you in some way.
I'm hurting a lot tonight and this whole thing has been compounded by a conversation that I fell into a little while ago. I have a good friend who is supportive of everything but my therapy. She thinks I go too frequently and that I'm "wallowing" in the past. She's been in therapy herself but for very different issues and with a very different kind of therapist. So she tells me often, "don't look back, go forward." I'm trying, believe me. She stopped by my office before I left and asked me why I looked like h*ll. I sort of told her, but not completely. I skate over the abuse issues. She told me that this just isn't healthy. I need to stop talking about the past, and forgive everything and move on. And then she told how one of the things she has always admired about me is how strong and steady I am. She wondered if my therapist wasn't undoing some of that. I had no idea what to say - so I just nodded my head and said, "yes, I need to work harder to stay strong and stay in my adult self."
And then she hugged me and told me to call her if I needed her. *sigh* It is hard to figure out what the right thing to do is -- what is the best way to work through all this? Maybe I shouldn't write about it as much as I do.
You sound like you've perhaps been in this spot before. I'd love to hear what "techniques" you used.
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