Posted by sunnydays on July 27, 2007, at 21:56:01
In reply to Re: therapy is so painful » sunnydays, posted by DAisym on July 27, 2007, at 20:58:11
> (((Sunny)))
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> Of course you want. You should have had the caring all along. And yes, it is hugely painful to recognize what you didn't get, might not ever get and can't find elsewhere. This is why we grieve and grieving takes awhile. It sometimes feels like you can drown in these waves of pain -- but you won't. You are strong and you'll struggle through it. And you have such a great therapist to help you.*** Thanks for saying I deserve to have caring Daisy. I know I do, but I forget sometimes.
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> The pain will subside. Use the tools that work - distraction, writing here, talking with friends, tears, etc. to help it ease off. It is OK to work on it and then put it away. My son calls it "therapy hangover" and I've always loved that. The intense pain usually calms down, at least for me, after some sleep or after a discussion with friends.
>**** Yeah, I took a nap and it got better. I totally understand therapy hangover. That's definitely what I have.
> And I have to say, "of course he meant it!" Your therapist cares about you and I'm sure it breaks his heart to see you want what you should always have had.
*** The way you put that "breaks his heart", touched me really deeply Daisy. I had never thought of it that way, but that's what it is, that's what I was seeing when he was talking. Thank you Daisy.
I have absolutely no doubt that he does believe that you are brave and strong and that he is proud of you.
*** I'm actually able to believe that a little bit too tonight.
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> Take care of yourself.*** I'm trying.
sunnydays
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