Posted by DAisym on July 27, 2007, at 20:58:11
In reply to therapy is so painful, posted by sunnydays on July 27, 2007, at 19:16:57
(((Sunny)))
Of course you want. You should have had the caring all along. And yes, it is hugely painful to recognize what you didn't get, might not ever get and can't find elsewhere. This is why we grieve and grieving takes awhile. It sometimes feels like you can drown in these waves of pain -- but you won't. You are strong and you'll struggle through it. And you have such a great therapist to help you.
The pain will subside. Use the tools that work - distraction, writing here, talking with friends, tears, etc. to help it ease off. It is OK to work on it and then put it away. My son calls it "therapy hangover" and I've always loved that. The intense pain usually calms down, at least for me, after some sleep or after a discussion with friends.
And I have to say, "of course he meant it!" Your therapist cares about you and I'm sure it breaks his heart to see you want what you should always have had. I have absolutely no doubt that he does believe that you are brave and strong and that he is proud of you.
Take care of yourself.
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