Posted by antigua3 on July 14, 2007, at 14:01:47
In reply to Re: Let me add/clarify » antigua3, posted by Honore on July 13, 2007, at 14:13:45
> Antigua, I do wonder, no matter what you say, if you don't need a male T who is trained to deal with csa, not one who's trained to deal through cbt, even if he does have virtues and is helpful in certain contexts.
I assumed/or was told that he was trained in csa, but I will ask. If he isn't then you're right
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> I really don't think that he will terminate you; but I do think he might not be the right person to help you-- even if he's the person you have right now, or even if you want him to be the one.You made me realize that I have to sort out my feelings for him, first, and then find what I need, and if he's not it, he's not it, accept it and move on. I'm stuck in the fear of abandonment and will resolve that first.
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> He just started doing any type of therapy with you-- two months ago-- which is only about a month before you had this session after which you cancelled-- you said because you might have been angry, disappointed that he didn't help or "get it."Actually, we have been doing therapy for longer than the two months; that's just when we changed the time because we were always running over
>> I don't know what you want exactly from him that you can't get from your T.
I want the ability to be more open and honest, and I feel that I can be that way with him. Even angry. My T and I have a huge wall that I can't get over, in that she is more compassionate and motherly, and I couldn't say anything that I perceive as hurtful to her. I know, we're working on it; we've discussed it to death. I protect her.
Also, I cannot let my anger out with her, and I need to let it out.
I will try to get all my questions answered next week and then move on from there.
Now I'll quit whining.
thanks for your insight,
antigua
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