Posted by Honore on July 13, 2007, at 8:13:38
In reply to Re: Therapy went pretty well *slight trigger* » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on July 13, 2007, at 6:38:15
It's great that you were able to handle it from a place that she could respond to-- and also that that helped her to see the other aspects of the situation that she'd been resisting herself.
It's a first step-- and I hope greatly that you and she can continue to revive the old relationship-- it's inevitable that it will come back, if you wait long enough-- and can keep touch with it. Which could be a learning-- and strengthening-- of your own inner sense of it as an ongoing and permanent part of you. Which would be so terrific, too.
Sometimes when T's go through crises and can't respond, it does cause a serious break in the relationship-- and it depends on where the person is-- and the relationship is-- if it (and they) can weather that disruption and refind one another.
It reminds me of a babbler whose T had been very sick-- and who was having such an awful time keeping in touch with the good feelings. I really wonder how she is, and whether she was able to get through to her T with-- and give herself permission to feel-- some of the bad --angry, deprived--feelings about the relationship. And whether they got past it.
But I'm so glad that you and your T seem to be getting into a much better place. You must have really done some inner work on your own for that to have happened.
Honore
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