Posted by TherapyGirl on July 11, 2007, at 17:34:03
I'm struggling with what to do in my session tomorrow night. This is the first one in two weeks -- since the nearly disastrous one when she didn't call me back for what I considered an emergency.
A friend of mine e-mailed me this to think about (she said something similar to me last week and I couldn't retain it, so asked her to e-mail it to me):
<<Re your T --oh boy, I'm not sure now what I said. I didn't save it. Maybe something like reversing your roles and asking HER what she'd like in a session or from you in general. . . something like that. In other words, you serving her . . . you trying to facilitate a response from her without having any expectations . . . and seeing if lowering the tension in a single session helps change the climate. I don't know if she'll accept the tactic, but I think it'd be interesting to try. It would have to be done calmly and seriously, with no apparent personal motive. I believe my thought was that, even though it may not be fair, if you take the lead in a change--it might pay off if the relationship is important enough to maintain.>>
I'd love to hear what you all think about this. I know there are likely some boundary issues in trying to do the above, but I'm wondering if you can help me come up with some way that won't slam into boundaries but might help us get past this yucky place.
Thanks.
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