Posted by Dinah on July 3, 2007, at 17:19:29
In reply to Re: What's Constitutes a Win? » Dinah, posted by TherapyGirl on July 3, 2007, at 16:26:18
Well, I think the key was that this was clearly an external situation that affected our relationship. He didn't change the relationship because of the relationship. That's why I asked if something was going on in her real life.
Since it was something external, I guess I always hoped that it would eventually fix itself, even if it was hard to keep that hope alive. I have a tendency to stay stick things out far longer than I should, and I daresay this would have been no different. I don't think I'd advise staying indefinitely in a bad situation.
Can you refresh my memory again? I have this feeling you two have been together a long time and she's getting older, but it's entirely possible I have you confused with someone else. What's happened to change things?
I still can't say that it didn't leave scars. Today he told me he was opening an office closer to where he lives (which is a town outside the city). He kept trying to reassure me that he wasn't trying to stop seeing me, that he was going to keep coming to town, and that if I wanted to see him there it wasn't really so far. But it sent me hiding back to my shell like a turtle. Too close to those old circumstances.
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