Posted by Dinah on July 2, 2007, at 21:11:13
In reply to Re: What's Constitutes a Win? » Honore, posted by TherapyGirl on July 2, 2007, at 18:34:19
Sounds like something is going on in her real life?
I can only offer my own experience. When my therapist was going through Katrina, he really handled it much worse than I did. He admits now, and admitted at the time, that he wasn't at his best and couldn't really be there for me in the way I needed.
He used my own analogy (one that I borrowed from Alan Alda's "The Four Seasons") that a long term relationship was like a wave, with crests and troughs. And he asked me to hold on through the trough. To just keep coming, and to realize that he would be himself again when he could be. It was at least a year before he was near himself again. And now, after another year, I'm starting to trust that he'll be himself again.
I know now, in a way that I didn't before, that what happened then can happen again. He's not a perfectly safe emotional harbor. He will let me down. Things will never be the same as they were before. But hopefully things will stay good enough.
Is what's going on with her something that will eventually be better for her?
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