Posted by Happyflower on June 21, 2007, at 10:39:17
In reply to letter to 'mother'...***TRIGGER***, posted by B2chica on June 20, 2007, at 14:35:48
Wow, B2, your letter is so truthful and so honest it sends shivers down my spine. Some people just don't believe that just because you give birth to a kid, it makes you a mother. Being a mother yourself now, I am sure you are even seeing more things from your past. I know I did.
I see how wonderful my kids are and so loving, how could anyone want to hurt such beautiful creatures. I know I couldn't. I know I am not a pperfect parent, but I am doing okay with them.
Do you do this? Do you see yourself through your kid's eyes. Do you wonder how you appeared at that age. I know I often wondered how could my mom NOT see how cute and adorable I was. Kids need their basic nessecities but what they need the most is love. I didn't have the basics either, but would want love first I think. It is tough knowing I was never loved as a child. I am loved now, at least by my kids, and it helps I think. Cutting off the contact from my mom 6 years ago was the best thing I have ever done for my emotional health. I still fear her showing up at my door, but I can sometimes go a whole day without thinking of the fear.
What your mom did B2 was so wrong, and I am glad you are standing up to her, even in a letter, even if she doesn't read the letter. Do you thinking having your child, makes you stonger? It did me, and gave me reason to take care of myself, because my kids needed me and they are very important to me. Take care, B2
(((((B2)))))))))))
poster:Happyflower
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