Posted by Honore on June 12, 2007, at 9:05:59
In reply to I give you permission » peddidle, posted by Racer on June 12, 2007, at 0:51:50
Racer's so right-- no one who's depressed needs a "justification" for the "right" to feel depressed. It's not as if you're choosing it-- or preferring it to something better.
If you are, in some unconscious sense, "choosing" it-- as Ts like to say-- it's because there was some need for it-- something that was coercing you -- whether brain chemistry, or situation, or both-- to take it as a means of survival, or coping.
Even if that situation isn't in your awareness-- and even if it isn't seemingly a "trauma"- there are invisible traumas that no one recognizes.
I also tend to think -nothing really bad happened to me-- so it's just my fault, or some perverse and ineradicable flaw in me-- but that's not fair to me, and really is part of the depression.
Your sense that you don't deserve to be depressed is part of yours, too-- a way of keeping you feeling that you're wrong-- and bad. Which you aren't. You have my permission-- my encouragement even-- to think that you deserve not to be depressed-- but also to accept that you didn't bring the depression on yourself for no good reason, either.
Honore
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