Posted by annierose on June 4, 2007, at 6:43:09
In reply to Re: Daisy??, posted by DAisym on June 4, 2007, at 0:03:38
>>But I still need to be the good daughter. I know I can't have it both ways - I need to either get over all of this and have a relationship with my family<<<
I don't think this is something a person ever ever "gets over". You don't need to get over this daisy. I don't think that is your t's goal for you. I think he is trying to prepare you for the onslaught of feelings that might emerge, prepare you for certain interactions during this visit and overall, help you understand that what happened to you wasn't your fault ONE TINY BIT.
This is a big deal. This is HUGE. There is no drama here, just life, and it can be difficult under these circumstances.
Giving up these relationships doesn't equate being angry. Maybe giving up these relationships brings peace ultimately. Maybe not. You are your guide. And you get to decide this time. You are in the drivers seat.
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