Posted by twinleaf on May 28, 2007, at 14:26:29
In reply to Re: here you go... the ethics thread, posted by Dinah on May 28, 2007, at 13:14:49
Assuming we are just talking about mild forms of seductiveness, aren't they just a nice part of life? One could use other words- respect, caring, interest, an awareness of the ways the other person may be appealling or attractive. I think the key is that they have to arise naturally, and be genuine- on both the therapist's and the client's sides. If seductiveness is used more as a technique, without real feeling behind it, I think both people eventually know it. Then it could be harmful, as it will remind the client, and perhaps the therapist, too, of times in childhood when they felt unappreciated or demeaned. I think the main thing we all hope for in therapy is to feel valued, respected and cared about despite revealing the things we feel the worst about ourselves. Little warm, unexpected moments- hearing good things we didn't expect-can feel wonderful- a "safe seductiveness."
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