Posted by twinleaf on May 23, 2007, at 11:30:06
In reply to Sigh, posted by muffled on May 23, 2007, at 10:39:44
This sounds so hard. Can you keep going, but let some of the toughest things calm down a bit while you strengthen what feels like you- and strengthen your connection to your T? I have become convinced that you can get feeling better by using the stronger parts of yourself in the relationship, and allowing the younger parts to connect up non-verbally- right hemisphere to right hemisphere- when you are relating well to your T. Some people think that the early parts of us which have been traumatized are never going to be totally verbal, and some aspects aren't going to be verbal at all, but they do take in everything about the tone of your T's voice, his (her) gaze, body language, and some estimate of whether they are feeling contained and cared about- that's really what those younger parts need and want. With the T I have now, so far, we have not gone into early abuse issues. But he knows they are there, and seems to be with me in such a way that I am feeling a bit more confortable and safe- about them and about him. I hope this can happen for you, too. What you are going through now sounds so terribly hard, and doesn't give any part of your brain a chance to rest or calm down.
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