Posted by Fallsfall on May 23, 2007, at 8:38:34
In reply to Re: The new analyst is really good! » Fallsfall, posted by twinleaf on May 21, 2007, at 2:21:12
"I'll miss you."
How lovely.
Yes, you have my story right. I think that the significant part of both my story and yours is that the new therapist WILL be different from the old one. But that difference can be not only not a bad thing, but can actually be a good thing as well. It is hard to adjust to a new therapist - every one has their own quirks and differences, and even within theoretical groups (i.e. psychodynamic, analysis, CBT) there is great variation.
I think the big message is that not only can you survive without your current therapist (whether they are "good" or not), but you just might end up in a better place after changing therapists.
I really like my therapist now, and wouldn't want to change (mostly because we seem to be making good progress - don't break a good thing!). If, however, things fell apart, I know that I could find someone else who could help me.
Therapists are not washing machines, and I don't advocate changing therapists on a whim. But I think that therapists need to be "good enough", and that probably many of them ARE "good enough". Good enough is not settling - it is just saying that there is a range of skill that will help an individual patient. and you just need to find someone in that range who you can relate to.
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