Posted by pfinstegg on May 12, 2007, at 23:25:48
In reply to Re: The new analyst is really good! » pfinstegg, posted by Daisym on May 12, 2007, at 22:50:39
Strangely, even though I'm curious, I know I'll never find out why it happened. It's undoubtedly a secret from his colleagues (and most importantly, probably from himself)- they would be as shocked as my new analyst is, as he has the reputation of being very empathic, looked up to by the younger analysts, an excellent training analyst, etc. To complicate matters, my husband (and me by extension), my old analyst AND my new analyst all belong to a club here in the city for people who have contributed something to their particular fields. There's lots of musical and lecture evenings, dances and lunch and dinner tables with particular discussion topics. The old analyst runs a table on classical literature; my husband runs one on naturalist topics.
We are all there pretty often! Help! I feel like moving to a new city! I've kept my maiden name, so neither one of them knew what my husband's name was, and I had to make sure they both knew, so they wouldn't show up next to us for lunch or dinner! All the boundaries seem to take a lot of work to keep in place. One time my old analyst sat down next to my husband for dinner, and they had a long conversation about all sorts of things. Well, you can see I have an unusual situation! Right now, I don't want to know anything. Really, I do know- it's very painful for him also- he said so in a letter. It's not what he wanted or planned to have happen- it just happened, somehow.Well now, Daisy! There's no hurry about the guy, and of course it's very, very hard to start dating after being married and raising a family. I think those are pretty scary, uncharted waters for everyone. I gather, though, that although you have his card, he doesn't have yours.
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