Posted by sunnydays on May 12, 2007, at 11:55:41
In reply to Re: voicemail...what do i ask for? » sunnydays, posted by gazo on May 12, 2007, at 11:22:13
> how long had you been seeing him sunny?
***** I had been seeing him for about two years.
i mean when you asked for that... i don't know if my T knows me quite well enough to know just the right thing.. but maybe. i really would prefer it be that way, just the right thing and from the heart. i have a feeling though from the things you have said that you relate to your T on a very emotion-based level and he can clearly see your emotional needs maybe (just guessing of course). i present myself very logical based.. i'm all cognitive..supposedly. It's been a problem because people see that and offer practical advice, which is good too.. but no one ever just gives me a hug.
**** If you could say that exactly too him, or print it out and hand it to him in session, I bet he would get it. I started therapy on a very intellectual, cognitive level. I really didn't think I had emotions anymore. But my T from the very start operated on the assumption that I did. I would tell him a memory or something very intellectually, and he would respond with all the emotion that I didn't express. It was the difference for me, because it really touched me and eventually I was able to trust that if he could hear it and react and not fall apart, I wouldn't either, and so eventually (after about a year and a half) I cried for the first time. And then panicked and started hyperventilating, but he was able to calm me down by telling me to slow my breathing and just telling me I was ok, I was safe, it was just crying, over and over. But what you just said above I think captures exactly what you need, and I think if you could say or give that to him, I bet he would get what you need. Also, I bet you think you come across very logically, but T's can often see the emotion under something that we think we said without any emotion at all.
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> He does have a better idea than most because of a conversation we had just this week... i just don't think he has a good sense of depth with me yet.**** I don't know about that. If you could just give him the post you wrote, I bet he would get it.
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> it would mean so much to me if he could do what your T did.**** Yeah, it meant a lot to me too.
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