Posted by gazo on May 12, 2007, at 11:17:10
In reply to Re: voicemail...what do i ask for?, posted by Dinah on May 12, 2007, at 10:54:06
those are good points... but of course, we always trip over ourselves don't we? the big ..no, BIG thing we got to last week was that i never feel like my emotional side gets heard and he said because i never learned how to process feelings they just get louder and stronger until i am lost. It was more complicated than that but you get the idea.. it was a revelation. Part of that whole thing is being unable to ask for things which speak to my emotional side...
your suggestions make me realize that i don't want practical stuff... i want soothing stuff. i want something that is speaking directly to my emotional side... because that part is the part that is freaking out and is overriding my thinking.
i'm going to have a hard time asking for that... makes me feel dorky. i agree that if he used my name it would help more.. but i'd feel even dorkier to ask for that too. My thinking side thinks my feeling side is such a loser.
he has not spoken with me while i was in full crisis mode.. so i don't know what he would say. all i know is that i got very anxious in his office one day and the way he handled that really got through to me.. and i told him that. i told him THAT spoke to ME... the me in here. i dunno.. his tone changed and he became verbally gentle somehow.. it almost makes me cry.
THAT is what i want.. but i don't know exactly what THAT was...
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