Posted by pegasus on April 9, 2007, at 9:54:10
In reply to Re: tomorrow's the day but i am ticked off **trigg, posted by notfred on April 9, 2007, at 8:16:21
> "but it sticks in me that i have to pay him to give a rat's fanny."
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> Why should they work for free ? They would not have any way to know you unless you came to them for services.I've had similar thoughts to both of these sentiments in the past. The way I look at it now is that I understand that it's not feasible to expect a T to work for free, but also, I don't believe that it's the pay that makes them care. And, it's not the money that they're caring about when they do care. I don't think you could do this kind of work for very long if you didn't actually have caring feelings for most of your clients. I mean, just imagine it! It would be close to my personal definition of hell.
And, yes, they need to make a living like the rest of us. And so they can't see (many) clients for free. But then, how many of us will do our work for free after all, even if we love it? And if they were just after money, they'd probably be in a different profession. Most Ts don't make all that much money, even when it seems to us that we're paying a lot. They have to subtract from our fee their office rent, liability insurance (required in most states), and fees for their own supervision, not to mention things like paying for their own health insurance, paying extra self employment tax, paying off their student loans, etc. Most Ts I know (and I know a lot) really are not rolling in the dough. And most of them do have a couple of clients to whom they charge very low rates or see for free.
It is a weird set up that we pay them, and then what we value most from them is that they care about us. So it looks like we're paying them to care. But I think it's more accurate to say that we're paying them to be available to us. And then out of that naturally comes genuine caring (most of the time).
Just wanted to add that to the mix.
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