Posted by frida on April 8, 2007, at 14:15:34
In reply to Whats the point..???????????????????????????????, posted by Scentedgarden on April 8, 2007, at 13:51:23
I am sorry you feel this way...
I hear hurt in your words. I am sorry if you've had a painful experience :-(I don't agree...
I don't think they are doing just a job. It depends on the T ...and the kind of person they are...
I feel grateful to have found my T.She has been honest about the way she feels, I've seen her for 7 years now. She reassured me over and over, that after all this time, of course she loves me very much, and that love is mutual...not just something on my part. She feels love too. She reassures me that it's part of our therapy relationship, and that she loves me very much..
She truly has given me so much, much more than my parents who hurt me. She gives me so much of herself.and I do feel she's real in my real life. She tells me that she gives me all of her when we see each other, and when we're not together, the connection is still there..she thinks of me outside sessions sometimes and tells me sometimes when she does, (she tells me that seeing her grandchildren reminds her of myself, and what happened to me and how innocent I was)..
and i don't feel it's for the money. I pay her less than her usual fee because I can't afford it, she waits for me when I can't pay her right away and I feel she has given me a lot. When I doubt about her feelings, or our relationship, and how real it is, she tells me that we've worked so hard on our bond..and that if I stop and let myself feel it, the reality of it will prove to me that I can trust it's safe and real.I feel we share a very deep connection, she's put up with me and I've made her feel frustrated...but one thing i can be sure of, is that it is real..after all this time and all she's given me from her heart, if I were to doubt, I wouldn't be honouring the bond we share, she tells me this, to please honour the relationship we've built and to give her the gift of trust.
Her focus is to help me, but she says that of course there's love between us after everything we've been through. She's cried for me , I feel that love and caring.
I am truly sorry you feel that it's just their job and it's not real... :-( It makes me sad for you, because I feel a lot of hurt in those words and I'm really sorry if a T has hurt you and made you feel this way.
I wish a good, loving T could show you it's not this way...
Sending you support,
Frida
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