Posted by frida on March 31, 2007, at 11:13:30
In reply to Re: mssing my T » sunnydays, posted by frida on March 31, 2007, at 11:11:15
meant to say my T is usually gone for a month or so at least once a year... fortunately now she's here.
But I understand how hard it is to wait.
to try to put things on hold...hoping you can feel connected to him somehow,
Frida
> Dear Sunnydays,
> I understand...the times my T has been away, it was her I missed and her the one who could make that pain go away. I understand it's so painful. WHen my T is gone for a month or more...I try to stay connected somehow. I often ask her if she can tell me a book she loved, or that she's reading or that she'd like me to read...IT somehow gives me a safe place...or movies she has loved and wants me to watch...Maybe when you talk to your T you can ask her for something like this to help you feel he's with you? It seems silly but for me, it helps me feel she's there, I don't lose the connection and she'll be back.
> I try to do other things to feel connected...like writing to her (though it is sometimes painful to do), sending her a card, making her a drawing or gift. That helps me get through the day and I know I'm making something for her. It somehow helps a little.
> Maybe some of that could be of help to you?
> Waiting is really hard. I hope he feels better soon so he can be there for you..
> I often feel the same as you...the need to just be held and told it'll be ok, you are safe, it will be just fine, i'm with you.
> I hope you can feel connected to your T soon and he can help you feel less pain...He's not abandoning you, he'll be back, even if it feels like you are being abandoned.
>
> sending you support to get through these days
>
> Frida
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