Posted by frida on March 31, 2007, at 11:11:15
In reply to Re: mssing my T » gazo, posted by sunnydays on March 30, 2007, at 19:31:27
Dear Sunnydays,
I understand...the times my T has been away, it was her I missed and her the one who could make that pain go away. I understand it's so painful. WHen my T is gone for a month or more...I try to stay connected somehow. I often ask her if she can tell me a book she loved, or that she's reading or that she'd like me to read...IT somehow gives me a safe place...or movies she has loved and wants me to watch...Maybe when you talk to your T you can ask her for something like this to help you feel he's with you? It seems silly but for me, it helps me feel she's there, I don't lose the connection and she'll be back.
I try to do other things to feel connected...like writing to her (though it is sometimes painful to do), sending her a card, making her a drawing or gift. That helps me get through the day and I know I'm making something for her. It somehow helps a little.
Maybe some of that could be of help to you?
Waiting is really hard. I hope he feels better soon so he can be there for you..
I often feel the same as you...the need to just be held and told it'll be ok, you are safe, it will be just fine, i'm with you.
I hope you can feel connected to your T soon and he can help you feel less pain...He's not abandoning you, he'll be back, even if it feels like you are being abandoned.sending you support to get through these days
Frida
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