Posted by Happyflower on March 27, 2007, at 9:17:44
In reply to Re: What propelled me to the end of therapy » Happyflower, posted by gazo on March 27, 2007, at 8:49:14
I believe it fine to do some checking, but when the checking hinders your progress, because you are more concerned with how your T is doing therapy, instead of focusing on yourself and working on yourself. I feel as long as you spend as much time working on yourself as you do checking out all the resources, you should be fine. ;-)
Why spend over $100 bucks an hour, if you don't believe what your T is doing? It will take years to learn what your T did in all his training, if that is what you want to learn, then go to school so you can get a degree in counceling. You can read all the books you want, but it still won't be the same as what the T's learn and from their training. If you want to let them help you, you need to give up some of that control of having to know everything they are trying to do. I feel it is a waste of money to try to "outwit" your T, because they certainly don't care what you really think about how they do their job.
If I never took the leap of faith in my T , and trusted what he was doing was the best for me, I would be in therapy forever. Now maybe that is fine for some, staying stuck has it's benifits and payoffs, but I want to be out in the world doing something other than going to therapy every week and thinking about it all the time.
I love my T, but I am finding that real relationships in the real world outside of therapy, are more meaningful and can offer more. I don't want my T to be everything and all my support, or anyone else for that matter. Having real friends are so much better than therapy but one time in my life, my T was all I had, and it was fine at the time, but now I want more, I need more than what my T can offer me as a T. This is just what I feel after being in threapy for over 2 years, based on my experience, it isn't everyone's story, it is just mine. I have had a horrible past and a lot of issues to work out, but I am the one that did it, my T HELPED, but I did the work. A T can't fix your problems, only you can, so focusing on how your T is doing his job, will not get you anywhere. In a way it is like avoidance of yourself.
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