Posted by widget on March 3, 2007, at 5:05:55
In reply to Re: Once again, a transference question, posted by Daisym on March 2, 2007, at 23:45:51
Dear bailey, I am in the middle of an intense erotice transference toward my therapist. Everything you are feeling and all of the posters responses ring so true for me. And, I understand the desire to get rid of the feelings or to lessen them. It is an overwhelming experience. As this is ongoing for me, the only thing that can help is to talk about it with your therapist. As my therapist says, it must be analyzed. But, it's a process and will take time and insight will come in bits and pieces when it comes. And, sometimes, that insight can be painful, as it has been for me, as I realize what I am seeking in therpist that I didn't received from my father (this is just my case, of course; your's is uniquely your's). Lately, in each new session, the understandsing has been deeper (and more difficult). Tell your therapist exactly what you said here. You want to understand what this transference is and need help to do so. That's what I finally had to say as in "I cannot do this alone, please help me." I even asked if I needed another therapist to help me deal with the transference issues and was assured I did not. I had tried to put the issue out of my mind until I felt I "broke down" and asked for help. And, therapy has been MUCH better since I did this. I have only intensified in my feelings for my therapist but I definitely have understanding of what is behind this.
Talk, talk, talk, ask questions, talk to your therapist. Yes, many of us have transference but each transference is unique and helps the therapist to view how you handle your emotional life that could be difficult to see otherwise. Hope this helps. Keep us posted! widget
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