Posted by canadagirl on March 2, 2007, at 21:14:55
In reply to Once again, a transference question, posted by bailey777 on March 2, 2007, at 17:18:15
As for your "transference", yes that's quite common. Truly, I think we're all
looking for someone who will accept us just as we are - no criticisms, no put-downs (even slight), and when we meet someone who seems to understand and accept us inside out - well look out! Down come those walls we build up to protect ourselves. Here it is, what we've desired all our lives, and we're down for the count. And actually, it's supposed to be a healthy part of the process. It's lowering boundaries and letting someone inside our mental/emotional processes but in a safe, ethical way (hopefully anyway). Enjoy the experience because it lets you know that it is possible to feel that accepted and safe with another human being. As to how to "stop" those feelings -that's tricky. I don't have any answers for that, for me it just wore off, eventually. But I thought it was helpful to talk about it (even if I did feel like I was probably client number 4,987 with the same issue).
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