Posted by philyra on February 22, 2007, at 23:18:33
In reply to Re: My therapist has no sexual attraction for me, posted by widget on February 22, 2007, at 21:59:53
hi widget,
i am so sorry this happened to you. sounds like you're really clear on what's happening, but that doesn't make it any less painful, does it?
i think any kind of rejection from a T is especially painful. how could it not be? it's an incredibly intimate relationship. i experienced a different kind of rejection from a T once - a request that i not call at home - the T was still figuring out boundaries, was a relatively new T. no matter how gently and gracefully and directly she handled it, i was livid and very, very hurt.
but, i will say, that working through that rejection with her was a really important part of my therapy. it took a while - i want to say like a year - to feel like i said all i needed to say on the matter. but by the end i had been able to use the episode to work through some very important issues for my healing.
so, i guess i want to say, maybe if your T is skilled and caring, which it sounds like he is, you could bring these feelings of rejection and anger and the stuff about your father into the session?
take care,
philyra
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