Posted by madeline on February 18, 2007, at 6:32:55
In reply to why don't friends understand? post 2 maddie thx! » madeline, posted by scentedgarden on February 17, 2007, at 17:11:16
I do understand the pain you feel.
What I posted about the therapeutic relationship was simply my understanding of what happened to me. It literally took me years to get to that place of understanding and acceptance of my relationship with my T. During that time, I went through a lot of hurt, rejection and pain myself.
I was lucky though because my T was willing to let me process it with him and really helped me to bring it through to a resolution.
I think what you felt about your T is normal for a lot people in therapy and you felt secure and strong enough to express it (good for you!).
I would definately stop short of saying that what your going through is over. It clearly isn't. I think that right now you really do feel as though someone you could trust has abandoned you (again?). Losing that relationshop prematurely is sometimes worse than never having it in the first place.
After speaking with you in chat and reading your posts it is obvious (to me at least) that your T did not handle this whole situation well at all.
That doesn't mean that another T will do the same. It might be a good idea to start shopping around for another T to help you heal from this and start to work again on what brought you to therapy in the first place.
In the meantime, I know it may hurt like crazy now, but at least you were able to develop an attachment to someone, at least you were able to love. It speaks volumes about the strength of your spirit that inside you is someone that can still reach out to another human with hope.
Take good care. My thoughts are with you as you go through this.
maddie
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