Posted by annierose on February 7, 2007, at 6:14:04
In reply to Helping Yourself - csa trigger, posted by Daisym on February 7, 2007, at 0:47:26
I would continue to try this exercise with your therapist. He can help walk you through it, holding your hand (so to speak) and together you can figure out what the adult in you would like to say/do. Confronting your dad IS scary. Be gentle on yourself. This is a difficult exercise and who better to protect you from the pain that it will bring up than your t. And even though you are angry with him, maybe this is an excellent exercise to help build that trust back into the relationship.
You are not empowered any less by having him (your T) there. Even as an adult, we still need help learning a new skill --- whether it's a new computer program, learning how to ski, cook, do yoga, etc --- having another adult's helping hand is always a good thing. Especially when it's coming from a person's heart and love for you.
That being said, you do not have to push yourself to do this yet. Maybe try it w/T and if it's too difficult, it's okay to say, "I'm not ready yet." I know the business person in you wants to tackle every situation to its full resolution. But it's also empowering to stop and say "Not yet."
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