Posted by peddidle on February 6, 2007, at 21:13:02
In reply to Re: Why can't I talk? (long...what else is new?) » peddidle, posted by wishingstar on February 4, 2007, at 18:52:56
>That's exactly how I feel too. It's not saying the words as much as it is communicating the idea, in any form, that's hard for me, so handing her a piece of paper in person is difficult too. That's why getting her to ask me specifically for it seems to help. It's so direct, it makes it a bit easier. Though it still is quite uncomfortable... but like I said before, it does get easier after the first few times when she reacts well (and I assume your T would).
>For me, I brought it up just as an open conversation about the issue... "I'm having trouble talking and I dont know how to fix it". Something like that. The things shes doing now were actually mostly her ideas. I dont know if itd feel easier or harder for you to bring it up indirectly (versus bringing up suggestions) but it's something to consider I guess.
> No voicemail hm? I'm not sure how your university counseling center is set up, but at mine, the staff (including therapists) all have mailboxes on the first floor. Could you stop by the building and leave it in her box? Then she'd get it directly but you wouldnt have to be there to see her read it. Or of course email, like you mentioned.
**Thank you so much for all the great ideas, wishingstar. Something else occurred to me today. You know how sometimes you feel sick, so you go to the doctor, and then all of a sudden you feel better? You don't want to tell the doctor that you feel better, because then they'll think you're a hypochondriac or something. I kind of feel that way sometimes when I see my T. I feel like I need to tell her so many things, but they all kind of fade-away once I see her. I guess it's good that she makes me feel better by just being there, but then I feel like I shouldn't tell her all the stuff I was thinking about before because it would be like I was lying. Am I making any sense?Sorry if that was incoherent.
> I know that if I can do it, so can anyone. Because believe me, I'm the queen of intellectualizing and diverting and everything else in the book. You can. I'll be waiting to hear about what you decide to do. Please let us know.
**Thanks again, and I will let you know how my session goes.
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