Posted by wishingstar on February 4, 2007, at 18:52:56
In reply to Re: Why can't I talk? (long...what else is new?) » wishingstar, posted by peddidle on February 3, 2007, at 23:43:58
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> **I have trouble bringing things up out of the blue, too. I just don't know if or when it's the right time to bring something new up. I'm sure I would have an equally hard time just randomly handing her a piece of paper.
>That's exactly how I feel too. It's not saying the words as much as it is communicating the idea, in any form, that's hard for me, so handing her a piece of paper in person is difficult too. That's why getting her to ask me specifically for it seems to help. It's so direct, it makes it a bit easier. Though it still is quite uncomfortable... but like I said before, it does get easier after the first few times when she reacts well (and I assume your T would).
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> **No need to apologize. :) It sounds like you have a good system set up with your T. Maybe I should mention some of these things to her. I know she would be willing to try anything that would help me open up.
> >For me, I brought it up just as an open conversation about the issue... "I'm having trouble talking and I dont know how to fix it". Something like that. The things shes doing now were actually mostly her ideas. I dont know if itd feel easier or harder for you to bring it up indirectly (versus bringing up suggestions) but it's something to consider I guess.
> **My T doesn't really have voicemail that's just her's, because I see her in my college's counseling center. I'm pretty sure she has another office where she has voicemail... I have to find a way to get her to mention it to me. I could email her though. I'm that way too, where I have to just do something (like leaving a voicemail or sending an email), because then I know it's done and there's no getting out of it. I think you're right, I'm going to have to go against everything that feels safe and secure and just do it.
> >No voicemail hm? I'm not sure how your university counseling center is set up, but at mine, the staff (including therapists) all have mailboxes on the first floor. Could you stop by the building and leave it in her box? Then she'd get it directly but you wouldnt have to be there to see her read it. Or of course email, like you mentioned.
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> **Thank you. It's so sweet that you have faith in me, even though you don't know me. Thank you, again.
>I know that if I can do it, so can anyone. Because believe me, I'm the queen of intellectualizing and diverting and everything else in the book. You can. I'll be waiting to hear about what you decide to do. Please let us know.
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