Posted by Pippa on February 3, 2007, at 2:33:46
In reply to Re: Love with therapist, posted by Honore on February 2, 2007, at 21:28:42
Honore
Thank you for your comments and replies.
I knew when I posted that I might be opening pandora's box.
Believe me, before we started our affair we talked about the implications that our actions would have on our families and damage that our love could have on his career and professional standing. Based on rational discussion and a deep trust for each other we started our future.
My T 's reason for not telling his wife and children is because she has a terminal illness and the children do not need the added grief of dealing with what we have started at this stage in their lives.
My husband and family do not know who I am in this relationship with. Leaving my home was the hardest decision I have ever made. It was the right decision because I had to be true to myself and them.
I dont believe I am idealising my T, but I will consider that opinion. We have something that is very hard to explain - a relationship based on total trust, physical compatibility and love!
I respect my T's decision not to tell his wife and family and understand why the time is not right. I am sad about it and have to admit that at times I have doubted that he would ever tell her. However, we have talked this through and despite the odd moments of insecurity can live with what we have decided.
I am in love - with an honourable, passionate and grieving man who has changed my life. Our route to finding each other has and will cause a great deal of pain. However it is something we have to go through to allow ourselves to be together for ever.
Pippa
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