Posted by sunnydays on January 29, 2007, at 22:12:31
In reply to my T was being weird today..., posted by Karolina on January 29, 2007, at 20:52:16
> I know I’ve talked about my relationship with my T before, how I’m attracted to him, he says he feels flattered by that, tells me I’m attractive too, etc…
**** Some T's will stretch the boundaries more than others. Being flattered I think is a very kind response -- and probably true. I don't think it necessarily has to mean he's in love with you. But only you know if you feel he's acting inappropriately.
> Maybe I am over-reading into everything, but it was like I was unconsciously putting out some sort of warning that I think about seducing him and he says it wouldn’t make him mad?? Is that odd??**** No, not at all. Think about it from his position - a client is trying to seduce him... why would he be angry? It's a situation that happens often enough that some T's get trained for it, and he has said he would remind you of the boundaries. But I don't think that it would make him mad. Maybe you're thinking the word mad but confusing it with another emotion? I do that a lot.
> How far apart do you and your T usually sit from each other?
***** Maybe about three feet usually, but sometimes he sits closer or farther depending on the day and what we're talking about. Talking about something really uncomfortable it sometimes helps me if he's sitting closer... I just feel emotionally closer to him too. He may just have been trying to let you see if you liked it or not, or he may just not have noticed how close he was sitting.
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> Do you ever feel like your T stares at you?**** Sometimes, although not really. I mean, he's almost always looking at me, but it's not in a bad way, and I hardly ever make eye contact so I don't really notice it.
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> What do you think it meant when my T was staring at me like that?
>**** I have no idea. Can you ask him? That would be the most reliable way to find out. Good luck!
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