Posted by Daisym on November 25, 2006, at 0:08:19
In reply to Trying to work my way back to my therapist, posted by annierose on November 24, 2006, at 22:47:17
I'm not sure I'm thinking with my best brain tonight but I want you to know that I don't think it is "just" you and old stuff. I do think your therapist is reacting to something going on between you two, there are just too many little things to be explained away.
But the answer is always hang in there and try to keep talking about it. You have worked with her a long time and I think the good still out weighs the bad, even though this is a painful time. If you can look at what you are trying to reenact, getting comfort from someone who can't give it to you the way you want it (does that sound like your mom? or your husband?) that might be helpful.
Sometimes I feel like my therapist is trying to "teach" me something that I'm not ready to learn. And sometimes I'm just not equipped to be a grown up about the limitations of the relationship. Recently he told me that it is OK to miss someone you are close to, and we are very close. I stopped him and said, "I feel very close to you. But sometimes I remember that *we* aren't close...*I* am close. You hold yourself apart, because those are the rules. But still, it hurts."
The relationship can hurt and it is complicated. Makes me wonder if it is worth it sometimes -- and we come back to needing therapy for therapy.
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