Posted by canadagirl on November 11, 2006, at 21:53:15
In reply to I just don't know, posted by Dinah on November 11, 2006, at 9:18:15
>>This has something somehow to do with me..... That something in me will be different if I don't need him, and I think that I'll be losing more than I gain if I replace that something with not needing<<
Although I haven't been in long term therapy, I think it is a relationship that changes throughout, and that we reinvent ourselves, the same as we would, say a marriage or close friendship, over the years. In a marriage, we maybe go through 2, 3, 4, 5, marriages within a marriage, to the same person! We reinvent ourselves and our marriage when something comes along to challenge status quo...a need, a thought...an event. I think it might be the same thing with therapy. We reinvent ourselves and maybe renegotiate in a sense, our relationship when something "happens" maybe consciously or subconsciously. Maybe you have made "progress" - you might have come to a new point where you don't have to replace, but maybe "reinvent" your idea of what "needing" him means in therapy and how you see it in the future. What do you think? Just an idea.
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