Posted by toojane on November 11, 2006, at 14:55:49
In reply to I just don't know, posted by Dinah on November 11, 2006, at 9:18:15
> This has something somehow to do with me. With a me that needs him being a different thing than a me that doesn't need him. That something in me will be different if I don't need him, and I think that I'll be losing more than I gain if I replace that something with not needing.
> Does dependence itself, without regard to the results of the dependence, have a value that is usually unrecognized?Is dependence the right word? Are you dependent on him...or are you connected to him? More than ten years in a relationship with anyone is a huge investment of self, don't you think? You have forged a connection with him that would have a very unique quality from any other connection you may have or create with anyone else. That connection itself has value. A lot of work went into making it (all your fighting to relationship).
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