Posted by annierose on November 6, 2006, at 20:41:53
In reply to Re: I hint but... » Dinah, posted by canadagirl on November 6, 2006, at 20:21:17
I do think it's a comfort level as well. And they would set my alarms off too. I think I might hint as in, "Geeze, I hope you don't tell the next client I was in a bad mood today" --- or whatever the story alluded to. He would reassure you of course, but it may serve to turn on that internal ightbulb, [note to self - shouldn't talk about other clients in any way, shape or form.]
My T has only mentioned another client re: boundaries in a funny but scary way. Not to digress, but ...
She was seeing this adult male for his initial assessment and he was describing his issue with feelings of anger. After a few moments he pulls out a pocket knife and starts to scrape the knife on the bottom of his shoes. She kindly let him know that she needed to refer him elsewhere.
Even though this story did not pertain to me, it did make me feel funny hearing it. It didn't cross a boundary as far as I could tell, but she was sharing this odd story I think to reassure me that I wasn't scary. I think before the story I pondered out loud (as I often do in therapy) " ... I sometimes wonder if I'm too much for you to handle --- too intense, too emotional ..."
Didn't mean to barge into this thread, but this story just popped into my head.
Yes, your t is comfortable with you. And that is okay as long as the boundaries are still there keeping you safe.
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