Posted by Lindenblüte on October 30, 2006, at 7:19:14
In reply to Re: Wow » Daisym, posted by Phillipa on October 29, 2006, at 22:30:44
Daisy's right (she's a smart cookie)
It's not so much that a kid has a temperament that is better or worse- The most important thing is that a parent can take the best parts of a kid's temperament (like his wonderful sensitivity, you wrote) and really build his self-esteem on those wonderful parts. The parts of his personality that make his life more difficult, well you try to nurture those, and help him through the rough spots.
It doesn't matter what kind of temperament he has- all kids have their strengths and weaknesses, and a mom who recognizes them, and can work with them is all a kid needs to grow up healthy :)
The world needs all kinds of people- even sensitive people who have a lower threshold for anxiety or fear.
I think one of the things that really hurt me in my own development was that I had a lot lower threshold for anxiety and fear. My mom would make me scared of stuff, and then my older brother (who has NO sense of fear, and regularly participates in injurious and reckless sports and such) would capitalize on that. So... yeah... I think your son will do okay, especially if you are able to listen to his fears without trying to change him somehow.
-Li
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