Posted by Daisym on October 29, 2006, at 22:26:04
In reply to Re: Wow » Racer, posted by Dinah on October 29, 2006, at 14:29:30
So - not to make this too serious...but I have my hand in the air -- "pick me! pick me! TEACHER - I know the answer!" Well, maybe I know how to contribute to this discussion.
Your son was lucky enough to get a mom who could read his cues pretty well and who could value his sensitive nature and help him manage his world. He might be programmed due to your genetics but your nurturing helped him turn those traits and tendencies into strengths. Or will, as he matures.
Sadly, your mom didn't do that for you. It seems that she didn't know how to see who you were and help you make sense of how you fit into the world. We have studied so many cases of disynchrony between mother and child and how damaging it can be. Even if there are personality mismatches, if mom (or parents) can figure out how to nurture their child and honor who he or she is, there is typically very little psychological fall out.
I'll say it again -- your son is lucky to have you as a mom, Dinah. It isn't that you always get it right, it is that you want to always get it right. How great is that?
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