Posted by Jost on October 10, 2006, at 20:29:29
In reply to Re: Saw new T today » wishingstar, posted by Poet on October 10, 2006, at 14:12:21
It sounds promising, wishingstar. Maybe it's better that you didn't have that aha! moment. Sometimes that can be a sign of too much--overpromising and then not delivering. But Ginny sounds caring, and real-- not overpromising, but kind, thoughtful, honest. Only time will tell how deep a connection.
Two times a week, if you can swing it, would make a huge difference, in my experience. The sense of connection, of momentum, of things carrying on, of presence-- all are made more available-- more immediate-- you don't have to work as hard to bridge the gaps, which, at this point, is really important. And hard, after what you've been through.
I'm trying to remain civil when I refer to Anne, but my thoughts about her aren't at all. So, I'm not going to say much about her. Seeing the head of the counseling service doesn't mean you're crazy-- you shouldn't even say that! --it means you're getting a better trained, more capable, and well-respected T--
Maybe she'll see you enough, or an opening in her schedule will occur. But if not, you should explore the two-times-a-week option, because, at least for me, it offers much more safety to be trusting, and know the person is there.
I think you're doing great things for yourself. This is an abrupt and shaking transition-- but ultimately can lead to more.
I hope you don't mind my being a little optimistic for you-- I know it's terribly hard and frightening, now, too-- and you're unsure if something really bad might happen-- I don't want to obliterate or deny how real that fear is, and how hard to manage.
Jost
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