Posted by alexandra_k on October 9, 2006, at 4:51:23
In reply to I hated my session today BIG TIME today..., posted by annierose on October 6, 2006, at 19:31:16
> Sometimes when I hit the wall, I wonder if this is bound happen. Of couse I often stumble along the way, but when I crash head-on at an impass, I think, does this have to happen to make forward progress? In order words, (in my psychodynamic therapy) do I have to suffer the perils of transferance?
I think so. I found this online, maybe it applies:
> many psychotherapists do their best to put the patient at ease in the first session. [Then the] aim is not to lower the initial anxiety, but to use it to help the patient to break through his defensive wall and to get to the core of the problem... anxiety-lowering explanations will be kept to a minimum.
Maybe she is pushing you... To see how you resist.
>I didn't like her vibe (for lack of a better expression) or her tone, "So how are you doing today?". It took some time before I could reply and then more silence. I shared a story about yoga, more silence from her; I shared another story, again silence.Maybe she thought the stories were defences and you weren't really talking about what was going on for you?
> Finally I said, "I feel like this silence is building a barrier between us."
> Snotty t reply - (paraphrasing) "I don't have any comments to make at this time. When I want to share something I will."How did you feel? Rejected / uncared for? Is that why this happened:
> Me: "Well --- I guess I feel the same. We will just both sit here in silence until one of us wants to share something.> (pause) God this is ridiculous."
lol. That's funny. You must have a pretty good relationship for you to have gotten to there fairly swiftly.
> T: Let's reframe this feeling. I am not pushing you away, I really wanted to know how you are doing today and instead you feel like I don't care. I say, you are reacting to a memory, a very early memory. AND ... if you could put into words how that felt to be shut out, I think it would be productive.So I guess she is trying to get you to feel that really feel that with her in the present.
> Me: Been there, done that. We both know how I felt as a child, we have gone over that time and time again. Maybe I'm reacting to you being a hundred miles away from this room.Because you can go over it and over it and over it, but I think to progress beyond it you have to re-experience / re-live it in the present. So maybe... She was trying to *trigger* or *provoke* you (gee, that sounds terrible) but trying to get you to make some progress with that.
> T: I'm right here.
Did you feel angry with your parents when you felt that they ignored you / didn't care?
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