Posted by Racer on September 9, 2006, at 11:45:19
In reply to Re: Dunno... » Racer, posted by Dinah on September 9, 2006, at 10:33:37
> I do that collapsing thing. A lot of time it follows anger. I get angry about something, feel I'm being unreasonable, then collapse inward.
Yep -- it's involved with anger for me, too. My T keeps telling me I need to be able to recognize and feel anger, but so far it always triggers that collapse, instead of coming to the surface. I know that a part of me is very angry about a number of things with my husband, but I pull back from expressing it, ever. Even in MC, I censor it.
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> What positive things does the group give you? Are you going just because you think you should, or someone told you you should? Or are you really getting something from it.
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> Can you make a list of pros and cons? I love making lists of pros and cons, although I then do nothing with them.lol Sorry to laugh about it, but I do the same thing.
The group? Yes, I do get something out of it. I feel a part of the group, which is pretty much enough for me right now. I also hear others struggling with the same sorts of things I have trouble with. My T is great, as you may have read in my other posts, so she also brings out things that I certainly wouldn't have gotten. The other night, I was able to tell someone that I wasn't comfortable being touched, which is pretty amazing for me. (One night, someone hugged me because I was crying, and it upset me so much I nearly turned inside out. Took two weeks even to tell my T, and never did say anything in group about it -- until the other night. That was nearly a year ago...) I don't feel so isolated, having the group. Just -- I do get something out of the group. It's not something anyone told me would be good for me. I'm one of the clients who kept telling my T, "Let me know when you start a new group/I hope you start that group soon/etc."
Thanks, Dinah. One way or another, I can't be too awful, if I share some of these crazinesses with you. That may not sound right, but truly -- knowing someone I respect does similar things helps me.
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